Death vs. Divorce

It is a quandry- which is preferable if you had to face one or the other? I see death as a step in life- it can be hard, surprising, tragic BUT still a part of God's plan-- and the best part will be the hopefully joyful reunion when you meet the person that died again and run to them and hug them and catch up on all of the lost times and reminisce about of of the "good ol days". You have a funeral to recognize the great life that the person lived and you have alot of people to share in this time with you. You receive financial help from life insurance or whatever and you have a conituous flow of family and friends to help you through this time of loss.
Then you have the betrayal of the uncommitted spouse- the pain of dividing the assets and the getting over the unkindness sure to come through the process of separating ones life permanently from another. You don't have a funeral, memorial service or anything like the support of your friends rallying around you to give you their condolences and their words of love. You have nights alone, days of re structuring the bills, accounts, schedules, hearing things that remind you of the betrayal, trying to be strong for the kids, removing any small reminders to spare yourself anymore pain. You have divided the financial part of your life and wonder how you are going to do without the other income.
Well they both seem like such an awful trial....
Thank goodness I am not in control of which one happens and to whom-- I just take the FreeAgency of others that is inflicted upon me COPE--PRAY--DEAL-I know God is aware of me and so I -LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME!!